Two Words that are Halting Your Progress
Have you ever thought about the types of words you use to describe a timeframe? “I’ll go to the gym sometime next week,” or “Someday I’m going to own my own business,” or “Someday I’m going to take a much-needed vacation.” Without knowing it, most people opt-out of giving a definitive answer to timeframe questions, especially ones that involve their future dreams and aspirations. Using words like someday or sometime paints a picture of the future where everything is magically in order, and all the stars have aligned for you to pursue your dreams, strengthen your disciplines, or find rest.
Although the promise that the two words someday or sometime offers seems enticing, it will likely only lead to inaction and missed opportunity. Rita Chand once said, “There are only 7 days in the week & 'someday' is not one of them.” The lie we believe, or the time that we “buy” when we use these two words is one of the greatness enemies of our progress.
Being a person who often used these two subtly destructive words in the past, I’ve fallen victim to it’s enticing yet misleading promises. For 5 years I assured myself and people around me, “Someday, I’m going to make my own blog that talks about leadership and personal development.” To me, someday was only a dream. I never thought something like BreadBox would be well received or successful like it has been. Because of this, and a lack of confidence, I held back and made every excuse in the book that someday was the perfect timetable for me.
But why do we use these words to begin with? Why do we even allow the words sometime and someday to measure some of the most important decisions, relationships, and dreams in our life?
I’ve come up with a few ideas, and I challenge you to look hard in the mirror to see if you fall under some of these theories:
We don’t have confidence in ourselves
So many of us lack the confidence in ourselves to move forward with our dreams or disciplines. Instead, we succumb to the idea that we can only dream about our dreams rather than act on them. The hard truth behind this veil of deceit is that we DO have what it takes. Just because we aren’t fully sure who we are, which leads to a lack of confidence, shouldn’t stop us from acting on our convictions. Thomas Jefferson clearly understood the connect of confidence and action, “Do you want to know who you are? Don’t ask. Act! Action will delineate and define you.”
We don’t want the responsibility
These two words progress-halting words clear our responsibility to take action now. We don’t need to develop a plan or think through a strategy now, because someday is a far ways away. Instead of moving forward and defining when we’re going to start acting, we simply talk about “how cool it would be” or “how amazing it would feel” to pursue our dreams. Walt Disney was fiercely opposed to this way of thinking, and instead advises, “The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing. ” If you’re serious about your dream, you’ve got to start acting now, regardless of how much responsibility it will produce.
We don’t want to risk it
Dreams are scary, and often dirty. Let’s also add that they’re risky. That’s why we use someday and sometime, because we avoid the risk of being definitive with our dreams, hence allowing it to stay just that: a dream. The truth: if you don’t risk, you won’t receive. Muhammad Ali said it best when he said, “Live everyday as if it were your last because someday you’re going to be right.” Will you regret not taking risks at the end of your life? Don’t wait to find out.
We don’t deserve it right now
For those of you out there that rarely rest from your job and other responsibilities, this one is specifically for you. I often hear you say “someday I’ll take a break or go on vacation,” and never see that someday come. Why? Because you feel like you don’t deserve it. When it comes to rest, we feel like we have to earn it. But the truth? No one can tell you when you deserve something except yourself. If you don’t start making margins in your life for rest NOW, you’ll find yourself at the end of a burnt out season of life with more consequences than you imagined.
Did that convince you?
I’m convinced that these two words are halting your progress in life. Whether it’s dreams, goals, rest, relationships, or anything else, these words will help you stall out more than anything else will. The choice is in your hands:
Will you remove these words from your vocabulary, or someday at sometime be the person you were meant to be?