Why You Can't Seem to Do What You Want
Four months ago, I made a decision: read every day for 20 minutes a day. No exceptions. No days off. Read every day, even if you don’t feel like it. I’ve heard that leaders are readers. That if you really want to grow, you have to expose yourself to other peoples opinions and thoughts.
I made it three months straight of reading. That’s over 90 days of reading every day. If you look at my track record, that was impressive!
So what happened to the last month? Well, I made excuses. Decided not to do it. And eventually, stopped reading every day. Since I stopped over a month ago, I’ve realized a few things about discipline (or lack thereof ). Here are 5 things I learned about why I can’t seem to do what I want to do:
Without a doubt the most convincing thing to get me out of reading was excuses. Every excuse I made and eventually believed drew a deadly blow to my discipline of reading everyday. The excuses we make seem pretty legit sometimes. You’re sick. You’re really busy. You’re extremely tired and annoyed. You’re not fully with it. But really, all of these excuses are an attack on your character, integrity and grit. When we make excuses to not do the things we know we need to, we are delaying, depriving and demoralizing our self-worth and potential.
2.) False Promises
How many times have you said, “I’ll skip today and just ______(read for me) twice or double time tomorrow.”? Yeah, me too. That can also be placed in the excuse column, but there’s actually a deeper issue going on here. Plainly, when you have the “do it later” mentality, you’re actually providing yourself with a false promise. When you were a child (or maybe as an adult), you can probably remember how parents, friends, siblings, family members, teachers, or even yourself made a promise to do something but never followed through. Whether you’ve have false promises thrown at you, or you’ve thrown a few of your own, false promises always do the same thing: destroy trust, confidence and reliability. With other people, making false promises is looked at as a horrible thing. But why don’t we view the false promises we make to ourselves as even more horrible? We are robbing ourselves of self-trust, self-confidence, and self-reliability.
3.) Not “that” Important
This past month, I’ve reasoned with myself that reading isn’t really that important. I can get along without growing personal, because it’s simply not important. Essentially what we are saying here is that I’m not worth the time or valuable enough to grow. What garbage. Don’t believe it. Remember your potential. And if you believe there is a God (I do), know that he created huge potential in you. All you have to do is want it, work for it, and live it.
4.) Letting emotions drive
“It also requires independent will, the power to do something when you don’t want to do it, to be a function of your values rather than a function of the impulse or desire of any given moment.” - Stephen Covey, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
5.) Fear of failure
Don’t lie: everyone is afraid of failing. In fact, I’ve lived in fear of starting BreadBox for over 6 months. I’m afraid it would fail. And it still might. But who cares! Because the truth it, failure allows us to test our ideas, hone our skills, and find our way in life. If you let fear keep you from doing something, you’ll remain stuck in the same place you’ve always been. Check out an incredible video on failure below
These 5 things may not be the only thing stopping you from getting what you want, but the important thing is to know what’s stopping you so you can push ahead.
What other challenges keep us from doing or getting what we want?